Listen sis, I get it the burnout is real!!! This pandemic has been hard for everyone, but moms are really taking on even more roles. I can attest to this because if you didn’t know I am a mom of four. I work a full time job (I’m grateful Im able to work from home), a grad student, work a part time job, as well as blog. Oh and since the kids are virtual now I am a first grade, third grade, fifth grade, and an eighth grade teacher. Whewwww….!!
These are some highly stressful times and I have been in the burnout stage once before and want to avoid it at all cost. So over the last couple of weeks I have been intentional about some things that would help me avoid the burnout. These things that I am still doing to help me keep my sanity. There were some days I wanted to run up the road screaming. LMBO
I have been guilting of not doing this. Sis we already know that we can do it but you don’t have to do everything by yourself. If you have older kids kindly give them more responsibilities. Husband? Where he at? Give him some things to do as well. Communicate with your husband and children and let them know that you need their help. If it’s in your budget get some help outside your home such as house cleaners, or lawn service.
- Assign chores to each child
- Ask husband to help
- Hire a house cleaner
- Order grocery pick up or delivery
This can be hard for some of us moms. I want to remind you that its perfectly fine to say NO! If someone ask you to help out with something or to do this or that, and you know it’s gonna be a stretch and that you probably can’t do it. Just say NO! That person will still live and you won’t be bogged down even more.
Here are some ways you can say No! Never apologize for saying NO!
- No! LOL
- I can’t obligate myself to this
- My schedule will not allow me to participate
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff!
One of my many mottos is that it will get done when it gets done. I remember when I would run myself crazy just because one of my kids or my husband didn’t complete a task just the way I wanted them to. No your husband or kids will not fold clothes, or put away the dishes like you do. And that’s OK!!!! Just let them do it and you go about your business. The bible verse that says, it’s the small fox that eat up the vine its sooooo true!!!
- Learn how to be flexible
- Make a to do list- don’t stress yourself out if you didn’t check everything off
- Give yourself some grace
- Don’t hold onto things, just let it go
- Breath have your woosaaah moment
Rest!!! Self Care Day!
This can’t be stressed enough… Get you some rest sis! Rome wasn’t built in a day and you can’t keep pouring out and not finding ways to refuel yourself. For once, do something for YOU! Do something that makes you happy. Self care can be different for all of us, so whatever you see as self care, then its self care. A couple of years ago I was so burned out and didn’t know it was literally making me sick. I went to the doctor and he placed me on bedrest and wrote me out of work for a week!!
Here’s some selfcare examples:
- Taking a nap
- Getting hair and nails done
- Reading a book
- Watching favorite movie
- Doing Nothing!
Sis this is your reminder and a word of encouragement to take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup and you definitely can’t do your best as a mom etc when you have nothing to give.
So let me ask you, how are you holding up?